Stop Helping the Shy

March 7, 2008


Why is it that everyone is so motivated to help out shy people? I can guarantee you that if you aren’t severely shy, then you have no idea what it’s like. I came across this article today: The Shy Person’s Guide to Talking to Strangers.

Okay, first of all, I barely talk to my friends, family, or the person I’m going to marry, so why would I seek out lessons on talking to strangers? Oh, there are beneficial relationships that can be formed, according to the article. Allow me to debunk them.

“Business contacts”: being a shy person, I chose a profession that doesn’t require making business contacts. Any sensible introvert would do the same. Intelligence and hard work go a long way on their own.

“Friendships”: believe it or not, but most people don’t mind being friends with a shy person. I’ve had plenty of friends in my lifetime, all without learning to talk to strangers. I would dare say that people who frequently talk to strangers wouldn’t make good friends anyway. Analyze that.

“Mentors and teachers”: I don’t know what the author means by this, but I don’t need them and I don’t want to be them either.

“Romantic relationships”: see my comment about friendships. The same applies to romantic relationships.

The author finishes up the article with:

“That’s really all there is to it. Good luck and don’t get discouraged. You have nothing to lose but your shyness!”

Good grief! Why not cut off my arms while I’m at it? Please stop trying to break us out of our “shells.” We are doing fine.